Well, she mentioned having a boyfriend a long time ago... after breaking up with him she went lesbian.

...granted, for a 'lesbian', she doesn't seem too against sex with certain guys, but I think it's more abandonment and being used issues. Plus... just generally being crap with real attachment. I think she doesn't want to get burned again.

Don't know. Of course, you might be able to get someone else to take the penalty for you... or suggest something other than altering you.